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Question 1:
Rene, I am 16 and there is this girl in my class that I like. I dont know if she likes me, but some days I feel though she does by the way she acts arounds me; playing with my hair, and always giving me hugs. Is that I sign of her liking me, or just good friendship?
Also if it isn't what is the best way that I should I ask her out? Should I buy her flowers, and go around her house? Ask her out in the middle of class in front of everyone? What? HELP ME!
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Answer:
Alright, the first thing to remember is to stay calm. You don't want to work yourself up over anything right now. Now I think that there is a good chance that she might like you. But of course this is all by what you are telling me. I'm not around her as much as you are and I dont know her, so I don't know the way she acts. But the best way to start off things is by having a good friendship. This way you can learn more about her, and maybe if you found out more, you could stop a potential disaster from happening. Then if you still like her after about two weeks, make you move.
Now as far as when to ask her, to tell you the truth it depends on the girl. She may like you bringing her flowers, but you don't want to ask her in the middle of a class in front of everyone. This is because of two possible outcomes you will embarrass her and she will say walk out the room. Another is, what happens if she says "No"? Be careful going around to their houses as well, as parents tend not to like boyfriends very much. |
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Question 2:
There is this guy that wants to go out with me, but he is much older than me. He is 17 and I'm 14, I don't know what to do. I don't want the girls to think that I'm scared; but at the same time, I am scared because I don't know if I'm ready to go far physically. I know him, and about his past relationships, and he is a really physical person. What should I do? Should I go out with him, or tell him not that I already have a boyfriend (which is a lie). |
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Well to tell you the truth, I can't tell you whether you should go out with him or not, because this time he might just want a emotion relationship. Maybe he has changed a bit, and likes you for you. But that doesn't mean that you should do whatever he wants you to.
Something like that is up to you, and only you. Don't let anyone get you to do something you don't want to do. If you 'friends' are telling you that you could go out with him and do what he wants you to, then they're not friends. Also if he likes you, then he wouldn't pressure you into anything.
So basically, tell him what you think. Tell him that you will go out with him, but you're not ready to go to far, so you will have to take it slow, and let him know there is a chance that you might not want to go that far while you to are going out. You should never plan relationships, as they tend never to be predictable.
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